Family, Família, Famiglia, Famille, Familia, οικογένεια, die Familie, Jamaa, (Mishpachah) משפחה…
When children are born their parents (either biological or adoptive) become responsible for them. It’s their duty to teach them how to behave; to teach them how to fight and defend themselves in a world full of dangers; to teach them how to deal with frustrations and disappointments; to transmit them moral values; to set the example…
It is also their utter duty to be vigilant of their kids’ junior criminal behaviour: torturing animals; smothering their brothers and cousins; tearing teddy bears; sticking sharp objects in toys etc…all of these may very well be an indication of their future as violent people.
In conversations with other blogging friends I have often said that raising a family is a huge responsibility and it is a role that should not be played lightly: once we decide to have kids (or take care of them) our life – as we know it – is over; our ego must be placed in a box; our plans must include them and our schedules are organised according to their schedule…at least until they spread their wings. Once they leave the nest another phase begins: constant worries (are they ok, are they behaving, do they need something, are they eating properly, are they happy etc)…
I have also told a friend that if God tells us to honour our parents it’s because they are an extension of God’s role as a Parent to Humanity.
Children grow up. They become adults, and some of them create troubles, thus disrespecting society’s law, destabilising its order and generating fear amongst its citizens. In this case parents shouldn’t be afraid of them. They should have the courage and wisdom enough to report them to the authorities. If the latter can’t help them, the family should come together and solve the problem.
What would happen if each family would take care of its disruptive member(s)?
Possible outcomes:
1- Potential criminals would think twice before committing a crime, for they would know that they wouldn’t have a sanctuary to take cover in.
2- Crime rates would decrease for sure, since each family member would be a peace soldier.
3- The population in county jails would be reduced.
4- Neighbourhoods would become a bit more harmonious.
This would imply that families would have to gather, organise themselves and create sub-societies within society itself.
Come now, Max…is this really feasible or just another utopia?
Image: "Nativity with St. Francis and St. Lawrence" by Caravaggio
To quote a great man: "No other success can compensate for failure in the home." David O. McKay
ReplyDeleteOMG...Thats very interesting post.. I enjoy reading it..
ReplyDeleteKeep up the good work
Angel
Come on Max - snitch on your kids? Remember what Al Pacino said, "You never go against the family." But I hear what you're saying. What if your kid does something really awful? Who should step up? Parents? In the old days, the neighborhoods did exactly what you suggest. They took care if their own. Will that tactic work in the 21-century? Who knows.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first visit to you site. I'll be back.
Happy trails.
A lot to think of and to say about this post...
ReplyDeleteI assume in Portugal it's the same as everywhere else. Schools problems because parents don't care that much about their kids, drugs because kids aren't educated properly etc.
I'm not a mother so I don't feel I have the right to criticize. I assume it's not easy (ask my parents). Kids are kids and make mistakes. Yet, they should be taught values, and I'm not being conservative by saying that. Just basics. Don't have to be a religious zealot to teach your kids values, even hippies (like myself :$ ) can do it.
Right and wrong. It all comes down to that. I used to blame everything in the society but I changed my mind a bit lately.
Hey D!
ReplyDelete"To quote a great man: "No other success can compensate for failure in the home." David O. McKay" - great quote!!! Thanks, darling :D!
It is so appropriate for this article :).
Thank you so much, darling; it was quite a present *bowing*!
Cheers
Hey Angel!
ReplyDeleteWelcome to the MaxZone :D!!
"OMG...Thats very interesting post.. I enjoy reading it.." - thank you, I am glad you liked it :).
"Keep up the good work" - thanks for the support, dear *bowing*!
I will visit your blog to thank you personally :D!
Cheers
Hello Swubird!
ReplyDeleteWelcome to the MaxZone! :D
"Come on Max - snitch on your kids? Remember what Al Pacino said, "You never go against the family." But I hear what you're saying." - lol lol that is correct, snitch on your kids...somebody has got to do it! Besides who better than the parents to be fully responsible for their kids (for good and for worse)? LOL is this The Godfather!? Love the triology.....
"What if your kid does something really awful? Who should step up? Parents?" - yes, parents should step up...they made them! Isn't it said that God gives life, punishes us so that we get on the right path? Parents make us, punish us while raising us and they should be the ones to place us on the right track...
"In the old days, the neighborhoods did exactly what you suggest. They took care if their own. Will that tactic work in the 21-century? Who knows." - I hear you. I don't know...we should give it a try though...
"This is my first visit to you site. I'll be back." - and I loved your first visit :D!! Thanks *bowing*! Please do be back...
Cheers
Salut Zhu!
ReplyDeleteI missed you :D!
"I assume in Portugal it's the same as everywhere else. Schools problems because parents don't care that much about their kids, drugs because kids aren't educated properly etc." - you assume well, ma chérie...*nodding*...
"I'm not a mother so I don't feel I have the right to criticize. I assume it's not easy (ask my parents). Kids are kids and make mistakes. Yet, they should be taught values, and I'm not being conservative by saying that. Just basics. Don't have to be a religious zealot to teach your kids values, even hippies (like myself :$ ) can do it." - I am not a mother either, but I can picture myself as one (and I have terrific examples around me); and because I am not a mother yet, I think that before having kids I need to think about these issues and ask myself the right questions. I don't think that parenting is ever easy...kids make mistakes, but so do parents; and the question is what can be done to minimise the negative effects of those mistakes?
Values are important, I agree. Darling, even if you were being conservative you were in your right :D. LOL you're a hippie? How interesting :D!! You are right all one needs to know is the distinction between wrong and right, and choose which one should be passed on to kids :).
"I used to blame everything in the society but I changed my mind a bit lately." - evolution, my friend, evolution :D!
Thank you so much for this comment, Zhu; I absolutely loved it!! :)
Cheers
Max you are bringing here very interesting points. Parenting is a life time responsibility. It is not just giving food and shelter, but teaching them what's right or wrong. We are such society on the run, and I think when couple decides to have kids, they should stop running. Sit and smell the coffee, talk to their kids and share their wisdom (oh well if they have any). The most important element of parenting is to set laws and orders, like you said, but it is also important that parents do reinforce kids personalities, do make them stronger, and do teach them who they really are. And I will add, take material things a side, in stead of buying toys, make the build their toys - teach them how to's at the early stage. Max great post as always, and I needed that, one day I will have that responsibility myself, and believe me I think I am ready for it, with all the education I am getting in the world wide web, especially from you girl!. Anna :)
ReplyDeleteIts good I found your Max Zone...I like it.
ReplyDeleteAngel
Hello Anna,
ReplyDelete"Max you are bringing here very interesting points. Parenting is a life time responsibility. It is not just giving food and shelter, but teaching them what's right or wrong." - thank you, dear *bowing*! Absolutely, my friend, absolutely!
"We are such society on the run, and I think when couple decides to have kids, they should stop running." - I couldn't agree more with you; kids should be our number one focus from the second they are born onwards (or from the second we hold them in our arms onwards - in case of adoption)...
"Sit and smell the coffee, talk to their kids and share their wisdom (oh well if they have any)." - lol I understand what you are saying. And what you have described is such a nice family depiction...I bet your parents used to talk a lot to you and your brothers :)...
"The most important element of parenting is to set laws and orders, like you said, but it is also important that parents do reinforce kids personalities, do make them stronger, and do teach them who they really are. And I will add, take material things a side, in stead of buying toys, make the build their toys - teach them how to's at the early stage." - of course; parents should encourage kids to wisely express their personality (and respect it)...we wouldn't want to have absolute puppets as kids, right? Making them build their own entertainment instruments is a great idea; and it could teach them two things: 1- avoid consumerism, 2- keep them busy enough so that they won't have time to think about nasty things...
"Max great post as always, and I needed that, one day I will have that responsibility myself, and believe me I think I am ready for it, with all the education I am getting in the world wide web, especially from you girl!" - once again, thank you so much, Anna *bowing*! Girl, then both of us are ready :D! That is why I wrote this article, cause I am thinking about having kids soon and I am already asking myself all the questions that need to be asked...
Thank you so much for your comment: it rocked :D!
Cheers
It certainly is a lot of work. We have three kids and its a very rewarding and challenging experience. I think the most important things we teach at our house have to do with love and kindness, respect and discipline, and how to deal with money.
ReplyDeleteHi Max,
ReplyDeleteIt's never a dull moment with you. Your brain must keep you up a night too. :D
Raising a family is probably one of the most significant undertaking people do. That adage that it takes a village to raise a child is somewhat true. The way parents raise a child is the way he/she will respond/react to society; i.e., if a parent neglects a child and the child turns into a menace, society is the one who pays in the long run. Too many students are being shot in schools today. Students that have done nothing but try to make positive strides to better themselves by contributing to their education are being wiped out right and left because of a killer's warped sensibility.
One has to ask oneself why this keeps happening? What is going on at home that a student wants to kill? How does that child grow up? What happens behind closed doors?
"I have also told a friend that if God tells us to honour our parents it’s because they are an extension of God’s role as a Parent to Humanity."
That's beautiful.
I think there are a lot of good parents out there who get pushed into the background when bad parenting is reported. What about the parents of those great individuals who have contributed significantly to society; the doctors, scientists, philosophers, etc.
Then there are those cases when no matter what a parent does, the child seems to have his own agenda to be destructive. Maybe from a chemical imbalance or the way they feel about themselves?
The burden that criminals place on society is tremendous. In California, we have the death penalty. When someone is on death row, it takes 15 years to execute them. The amount of money it costs in the interim is huge.
I think some families to protect their criminal offspring, but others turn them in to the authorities. We have to address WHAT is in the criminal mind and HOW it got there?
"This would imply that families would have to gather, organise themselves and create sub-societies within society itself."
In theory, this is great, but in practice, I think we have to evolve more as a species first.
Great topic.
Spiritually Free Cheers
Hey Angel,
ReplyDeleteI am glad you like it, girl :D! Feel free to be a part of it *bowing*!
Cheers
Hello Scott! :D
ReplyDelete"It certainly is a lot of work. We have three kids and its a very rewarding and challenging experience." - 3 kids...that is marvellous, my friend :D! I congratulate you *bowing*! I believe you when you say that it is a lot of work...that is why I have a lot of respect for parents; in fact I admire them :)...
"I think the most important things we teach at our house have to do with love and kindness, respect and discipline, and how to deal with money." - extremely important values, if you ask me. You do not need me to tell you this but: carry on the great job, my friend :D!
Scott, thanks for sharing this with us...enriching comment *bowing*!
Cheers
Hey Max excellent post and having kids something I can really relate to.
ReplyDeleteIn a perfect world Parents would do there responsibility and bring up there children properly, It has been my experience that a lot of parents believe their kids never do anything wrong, working in a large mall I see it over and over and over and over again, the kids have been caught red handed, whether it be shoplifiting, drugs or fighting, the parents refuse to believe the facts, this is so frustrating.
One thing having kids has shown me is how much God loves me, having my own kids and the pure love I have for them, I can only imagine the love that God has for me and his other children.
Wonderful reading this post....I agree with your thoughts entirely...we get the foundation of our behaviour very much from our family only, & leaving a few exceptions, our family background really shapes up our character, behaviour , attitude and culture and a good family background can really save our society a lot....well written!
ReplyDeleteHey Bob,
ReplyDelete"Hey Max excellent post and having kids something I can really relate to." - thank you so much, my friend *bowing*!
"In a perfect world Parents would do there responsibility and bring up there children properly, It has been my experience that a lot of parents believe their kids never do anything wrong, working in a large mall I see it over and over and over and over again, the kids have been caught red handed, whether it be shoplifiting, drugs or fighting, the parents refuse to believe the facts, this is so frustrating." - I appreciate what you are saying here, and besides being frustrating it must also be sad to see parents in so much denial, eh? *nodding*...perhaps they do not wish to face the fact that that junior criminal is their product *nodding*...
"One thing having kids has shown me is how much God loves me, having my own kids and the pure love I have for them, I can only imagine the love that God has for me and his other children." - ooh, this is so, but so, beautiful; Bob :D!!! I will not add another word to this so that it won't be spoiled :D!
Thank you so much for this marvellous comment, my friend; I loved it *bowing*!
Cheers
Hi Kalyan!
ReplyDelete"Wonderful reading this post...." - always so kind....thank you *bowing*!
"I agree with your thoughts entirely...we get the foundation of our behaviour very much from our family only, & leaving a few exceptions, our family background really shapes up our character, behaviour , attitude and culture and a good family background can really save our society a lot....well written!" - you said it all, my friend! I do not wish to ruin your words, so all I'll do is to sign below your words lol :).
Thank you so much, Kalyan *bowing*!
Cheers
Hey Max,
ReplyDeleteMax you said: 'I couldn't agree more with you; kids should be our number one focus from the second they are born onwards (or from the second we hold them in our arms onwards - in case of adoption)...' - Max also I would like to add the 9 months and the planning time before. It is different kind of responsibility, but health of parents (physical and emotional) is important in the further child development. I know that the caring for the pre-born child may not have much to do with this post, but I really think that bringing up a healthy child we can accomplish much better job. What I am talking about is stress, smoking, drinking, eating junk food, etc during pregnancy and after too. People still do that stuff, and it is sad. Sometimes we blame children for misbehaving thinking it is a social factor, but chemical imbalance in children can cause lot of issues down the road, and hard time for parents to discipline them once they realized that things they did before were not right.
Max you said: 'I bet your parents used to talk a lot to you and your brothers :)...' - actually it was different for us. We grew up in the very disciplined environment. Cannot really blame them for that. There are things that when I think about them now, that I wouldn't do with my children, but then these things were kind of passed on from generation to generation, and I think it is also part of the Slavic ethnic groups, and partially something to do with education too. Like I said I don't blame them for that, because they work hard to raise us and give us the best what they thought.
Max you said: 'and it could teach them two things: 1- avoid consumerism, 2- keep them busy enough so that they won't have time to think about nasty things...' - you are absolutely right.
Max you said: 'That is why I wrote this article, cause I am thinking about having kids soon and I am already asking myself all the questions that need to be asked...' - you are smart woman Max, see you are already in the planning mode, so I have to say you will be one fine mother one day (not to forget the father) and I can see you just being a perfect example to many.
Must say, this is quite educational post Max. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Anna :)
Hello Anna,
ReplyDelete"Max also I would like to add the 9 months and the planning time before." - absolutely! You are right :)! The planning is also very important cause it helps us have conscience of our responsibilities and root them in our brain....
"It is different kind of responsibility, but health of parents (physical and emotional) is important in the further child development." - you are absolutely correct!
"I know that the caring for the pre-born child may not have much to do with this post, but I really think that bringing up a healthy child we can accomplish much better job. What I am talking about is stress, smoking, drinking, eating junk food, etc during pregnancy and after too. People still do that stuff, and it is sad." - no, you did well to bring it up (it is an important issue): I find it hard to understand pregnant women who smoke, drink, eat badly and do not part from stressful situations *nodding*. Once we realise that we are pregnant, I think we should radically change our life and habits (our baby must be our main concern, we should talk to our belly - baby - read him stories, listen to music, dance, meditate, work but shield out stress...bring peace onto the phoetus...). It is sad indeed, specially because information is out there and people just neglect it *nodding*.
"Sometimes we blame children for misbehaving thinking it is a social factor, but chemical imbalance in children can cause lot of issues down the road, and hard time for parents to discipline them once they realized that things they did before were not right." - I totally hear you, darling!
"actually it was different for us. We grew up in the very disciplined environment. Cannot really blame them for that. There are things that when I think about them now, that I wouldn't do with my children, but then these things were kind of passed on from generation to generation, and I think it is also part of the Slavic ethnic groups, and partially something to do with education too. Like I said I don't blame them for that, because they work hard to raise us and give us the best what they thought." - I see...just like you said: "these things were kind of passed on from generation to generation" and many times it is hard to change...but you will have the chance to change that :D. That's right; your family did the best they could and they did a wonderful job....look at you :D! And in the end they are always there, right?
"you are smart woman Max, see you are already in the planning mode, so I have to say you will be one fine mother one day (not to forget the father) and I can see you just being a perfect example to many." - thank you :). lol yeah, I am already in the planning mode :)...
Oh, we will have to wait and see if I will be a fine mom or not...I'll let you know when my kids leave for college LOL LOL ;D. Oh, the father will be a terrific one, I am sure :D!! Don't make me blush now...lol....
"Must say, this is quite educational post Max. Thanks for sharing your thoughts." - your comment was quite educational *bowing*! Thank you :).
You are most welcome...sharing thoughts is precious, isn't it? :D
Cheers
Hey Max, I thought I add few little things to this comment. You said "Once we realize that we are pregnant, I think we should radically change our life and habits (our baby must be our main concern, we should talk to our belly - baby - read him stories, listen to music, dance, meditate, work but shield out stress...bring peace onto the phoetus...).' - one day when you are there you will also find out that father will be the only one that will be able to kiss the belly, lol. Birth is a miracle. Thanks Max for all your wise inputs. Hey Max nothing like healthy blushing - supplies more nutrients to your face through blood. Got to run, lol. Anna :) btw 'sharing thoughts is precious' - yes it is!
ReplyDeleteAnna,
ReplyDeleteI was about to call in the night when I saw your comment :)!
"I thought I add few little things to this comment." - you are most welcome to do so ;)....
"one day when you are there you will also find out that father will be the only one that will be able to kiss the belly, lol." - LOL LOL LOL LOL I guess you are right...LOL that was a good one. And I am sure he will love doing it :)!
"Birth is a miracle." - Amen, darling; Amen!
"Thanks Max for all your wise inputs. Hey Max nothing like healthy blushing - supplies more nutrients to your face through blood." - don't mention it :D! LOL then I will blush away ;D...
"Got to run, lol. Anna :) btw 'sharing thoughts is precious' - yes it is! " - thanks for your amazing adding-up; you are adorable, Anna :D!
Cheers
Thanks Max, and sweet dreams. And now I AM BLUSHING lol lol, by mistake I post this message on LS blog, lol, hope he does not mind along with other thousand of commentators, lol. Anna :)
ReplyDeleteMax,
ReplyDelete"...whom do they want to shoot in reality: dad, mom; both; siblings? Perhaps that child has been neglected at home...parents "live their own lives" instead of making their kids their life (which they are, their kids are their genetic perpetuity, their immortality)."
There is a reason we are born with an umbilical cord; to maintain a connection, not have it severed for life. Initially it has to be severed, but that doesn't mean the bond has to be bludgeoned to death. Parents consciously or unconsciously create their children for the most part. They create their environment, their social skills, they way they feel about themselves, emotions, etc. When you have children, that is it, you no longer have yourself - they are still a part of you.
"...indeed there are parents who are absolutely adorable, and practice good parenting too, yet their kid is messed up (and some are even evil); I ask: is it karmic?"
I believe it is karmic. Souls travel in groups. So if the parent was meant to have a rotten child, it is part of their (parent and child's) karmic debt.
The criminal mind is a clever mind in reverse. In other words, they are clever enough to commit the crime (it takes weeks of planning, ingenuity, lots of brain power and pain.) Put those ingredients together and it is explosive. Instead of using their mind for good, they use it to harm - that's why I call it a reversal of thought; like reverse engineering. They can't separate the pain.
Pain Free Cheers
Hey Max!
ReplyDeletegrazie della visita,
quella del Proto non la sapevo...
di solito si viene vedere da tecnorati se ti linka qualcuno, ma il suo link verso di me è inattivo...
bene,
lui traduce proprio bene,
ha quel intuito artistico..
il link è questo
Invece la poesia mia da tradurre sarebbe questa:
Orchidea,
sempre se hai voglia di sperimentare.
Grazie dei commenti, un giorno mi ci metto a leggerti e tradurre con più insistenza...ora scappo,
ciao Max!
buon finesettimana XXXKISSXXX
Anna,
ReplyDeleteYou are most welcome; and thank you! As I replied (in LS' blog), I actually had sweet dreams...you are a doll :)!
LS doesn't mind, I am sure :D!
Cheers
Alexys,
ReplyDelete"There is a reason we are born with an umbilical cord; to maintain a connection, not have it severed for life. Initially it has to be severed, but that doesn't mean the bond has to be bludgeoned to death." - this is so beautiful, sista! And I totally agree...beautiful, wow... :D
"Parents consciously or unconsciously create their children for the most part. They create their environment, their social skills, they way they feel about themselves, emotions, etc. When you have children, that is it, you no longer have yourself - they are still a part of you." - absolutely, absolutely! Girl, you are inspired (well, you are always) *bowing*!!
"I believe it is karmic. Souls travel in groups. So if the parent was meant to have a rotten child, it is part of their (parent and child's) karmic debt." - I hear you, girl! I gather you also believe that we choose our family before we reincarnate (or incarnate - for first timers)?
"The criminal mind is a clever mind in reverse. In other words, they are clever enough to commit the crime (it takes weeks of planning, ingenuity, lots of brain power and pain.) Put those ingredients together and it is explosive. Instead of using their mind for good, they use it to harm - that's why I call it a reversal of thought; like reverse engineering. They can't separate the pain." - very interesting *taking notes*...thanks for having shared this, my dear friend :D!
Soothing Cheers
Ciao Hanna!
ReplyDelete"grazie della visita," - prego :D!
"quella del Proto non la sapevo...di solito si viene vedere da tecnorati se ti linka qualcuno, ma il suo link verso di me è inattivo...bene, lui traduce proprio bene, ha quel intuito artistico.." - è vero, lui traduce beníssimo!! Devo ringraziarti per avermi datto il suo link, in quanto mi piace bene leggere tutti i suoi posts...
"il link è questo Invece la poesia mia da tradurre sarebbe questa: Orchidea, sempre se hai voglia di sperimentare." - ma chiaro che ho voglia di sperimentare! Quando finisco di la tradurre ti dirò qualcosa, vabbenne?
"Grazie dei commenti, un giorno mi ci metto a leggerti e tradurre con più insistenza...ora scappo," - non c'è di che, bella ;)! Non c'è problema; prenditi il proprio tempo :)!
"buon finesettimana XXXKISSXXX " - grazie mille, buon finesettimana anche per te!!
Baci
As usual, interesting post, Max!!! I hope that I can become a wise mother in all my imperfection. I'd definitely hope to be given a teachable heart and mind at all times (because I'm so stubborn and rebellious sometimes).
ReplyDeleteAnd btw, GOOD NEWS, we bought the tickets to Indo already. Hopefully there's no hindrances in going there in October (7-24 October) and that I can see my brother's baby then he he he...
And hopefully when I get back, I can get pregnant quickly HI HI HI HI HI...
Max,
ReplyDelete"Girl, you are inspired (well, you are always) *bowing*!!"
Oh thank you my dear. You must bring it out. :D
"I gather you also believe that we choose our family before we reincarnate (or incarnate - for first timers)?"
Yes.
Wishing you a happy weekend and for Gods sake, stay out of trouble will ya? LOL
Trouble Free Cheers
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ReplyDeleteHi! Much has already been said in regards to reasons and possible solutions for the lawlessness and disrespect shown by some juveniles. So I’ll take another slant on things.
ReplyDeleteIn by gone days children were entertained by their parents, extended family and the occasional school outing. Areas of enjoyment were normally restricted to the close quarters of home under parental supervision. If not, other parents and or teachers would fill that void.
At home any trouble would be dealt with quite firmly and so short-lived. If not children were restricted to barracks until they learnt better.
If away from the nest, they would be sent home with their tails between their legs, expecting and getting the worse.
The ‘polluting of young minds” was kept to a minium. As TV and other forms of enjoyment were far cleaner than today.
Today the ‘polluting of young minds” is way out of control. Why? Supervision is minimal or non-existent as both parents normally work, young people travel far from the nest unsupervised to seek out their friends and fun and they’re exposed to things that their parents would never allow them to experience until adulthood.
That brings me to another point; children want to grow up too fast and to experience things before their time. With hindsight, what is the rush!
So whom do we blame? Ourselves for a start. Wanting to deliver the goods to make their lives happy and fun and to put a roof over their heads, we end up both working.
In other cases, we just give in to their whims in order not to create waves.
When we see things going wrong way down the track, we only then think one of us should have stayed at home or done things differently.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing but it doesn’t repair the damage done to our children.
So whom do we blame next? Well, it’s a long list but to make a long story short, this problem may never have happened if the family unit had stuck together in the first place.
I may be wrong but they’re my thoughts for today!
Now! where can I buy some of that utopia?
Take care,
Peter
PS the deleted comment was me! Sorry!
Hi Peter!
ReplyDelete"In by gone days children were entertained by their parents, extended family and the occasional school outing. Areas of enjoyment were normally restricted to the close quarters of home under parental supervision. If not, other parents and or teachers would fill that void." - indeed...
"At home any trouble would be dealt with quite firmly and so short-lived. If not children were restricted to barracks until they learnt better." - I suppose you're right, my friend....
"The ‘polluting of young minds” was kept to a minium. As TV and other forms enjoyment were far cleaner than today." - I totally hear you on this one...
"Today the ‘polluting of young minds” is way out of control." - mind pollution...I like this!
"Why? Supervision is minimal or non-existent as both parents normally work, young people travel far from the nest unsupervised to seek out their friends and fun and they’re exposed to things that their parents would never allow them to experience until adulthood." - so true, so true...*nodding*...
"That brings me to another point; children want to grow up too fast and to experience things before their time. With hindsight, what is the rush!" - I ask that same question: what is the rush? Why want to be an adult so fast...and then when they get to adulthood they wish they were young again...complex....
"So whom do we blame? Ourselves for a start. Wanting to deliver the goods to make their lives happy and fun and to put a roof over their heads, we end up both working." - I hear you, my friend...
"In other cases, we just give in to their whims in order not to create waves." - but that is a gross mistake, isn't it? Making waves is one of parents' duties, confronting their kids comes with the turf...I can still remember my mom making waves, and she did a great job (if I may say so)...
"When we see things going wrong way down the track, we only then think one of us should have stayed at home or done things differently." - I have seen this happening...
"Hindsight is a wonderful thing but it doesn’t repair the damage done to our children." - true!
"So whom do we blame next? Well, it’s a long list but to make a long story short, this problem may never have happened if the family unit had stuck together in the first place." - Amen!
"I may be wrong but they’re my thoughts for today!" - you are not wrong, Peter! I loved your thoughts for today, and I thank you for having shared your views with us. I know you have kids and I consider your input a most valuable one, coming from a parent who has certainly asked himself lots of questions :).
"Now! where can I buy some of that utopia?" - LOL LOL I will let you know, my friend LOL....
Thanks for this awesome comment, my friend...needless to say that I am your fan *bowing*!
Cheers
P.S: It's ok, Peter! :D
Amelia,
ReplyDelete"As usual, interesting post, Max!!! I hope that I can become a wise mother in all my imperfection. I'd definitely hope to be given a teachable heart and mind at all times (because I'm so stubborn and rebellious sometimes)." - Thank you, girl :D!!! All you need to do to be a good mother is to be there for your kids, that's all they need :D! Hopefully, once you have babies, you will put their needs first (without obliterating your own needs of course, but your ego will be place aside for a few years)....
"And btw, GOOD NEWS, we bought the tickets to Indo already. Hopefully there's no hindrances in going there in October (7-24 October) and that I can see my brother's baby then he he he..." - Good news, indeed!!!!! I am so happy for you, girlfriend :D!!! Everything will be fine :)!
"And hopefully when I get back, I can get pregnant quickly HI HI HI HI HI..." - lol do what you have to do and I am sure you will, girl ;D!
Thanks for the news, and for your thoughts *bowing*! I missed you :)!
Cheers
Alexys,
ReplyDelete"Oh thank you my dear. You must bring it out. :D" - you are most welcome *bowing*! LOL I must, I must LOL ;)!
"Yes." - we are one of a kind....
"Wishing you a happy weekend and for Gods sake, stay out of trouble will ya? LOL" - LOL LOL I will; I promise lol! Thank you, darling; and I hope you had a wonderful one too :D!
Not even near the police station Cheers
hi Max, I have completed your tag. You can visit the post directly. The link is http://kalyansuman.blogspot.com/2007/11/behind-garden.html. Thanks:)
ReplyDeleteHey Kalyan,
ReplyDeleteI am on my way, buddy! Thanks for having participated :D!
Don't mention it!
Cheers