Are Men tired of Career Women?

Female Nude killed from behind by Eugéne Delacroix
The debate over the Role of Women in society is on.  

In the United States, the Republican Presidential Candidate, Rick Santorum, suggested that women pursuing careers outside their home are worse mothers than those who do not. Such statement caused quite a fuss as if Mr. Santorum didn’t have the right to express his personal opinion on the matter (regardless of its absurdity). 
In Portugal, the recently appointed Cardinal Don Manuel Monteiro de Castro said that the main role of women is to bring up their children and, for that reason, they should spend more time at home. Again, this statement caused some Catholics to frown at the Cardinal and accuse him of wanting to decrease women’s status. 
This discussion has been hot a bit all over the world. So, what is going on: are men tired of career women? 

Women have many roles: procreation, education, orientation, mediation, organisation, distraction, entertainment; planning, implementing, controlling, training, guiding, combating, cooking, teaching; spirituality etc etc. Women have many talents and it is a pity when certain societies do not take advantage of their willingness to use their potential for the common good (it has been proven that societies where women’s status is enhanced are the most developed ones, in all levels). 
But I digress...

Are men fatigued of career women? I don’t think they are, no.  
The problem lies in the fact that the constant increase of women in the work force, although extremely positive, has been detrimental to family values and, mainly, to the emotional stability of children. Some studies suggest that children whose mother/grandmother/aunt is at home with them are more academically successful, and less violent, than those who do not benefit from such presence in the household. 
This is not an attack to Feminism (nor to the Empowerment of Women), it is simply evidence supported by the behavioural decay in today’s society. 

Now, people could say that this is a conservative or religious view (I am yet to explore why people immediately assume that being conservative automatically means being religious and vice-versa) subject to bias; but one could flag certain views as tendentious as well. For example, a NYU sociologist (Paula England) suggests that “Educated mothers are much more likely to work outside the home and to return to work within a year after the birth of a child. They also tend to have fewer children than their less educated counterparts” when this is simply not universal: first, many educated mothers, due to the amount of information acquired, are likely to decide to stay at home until their kids are between 10 and 14, before going back to work outside the home; second, it is not uncommon, in the US, to see educated women with more than 3 children; in Jewish communities (around the world, but specially in Israel) it is quite common for educated women to have more than 7 children; whereas less educated mothers (because many of them work a lot, in precarious conditions) tend to only have between 1 and 3 children. So, who’s the target audience of Ms England? 

The Role of Women, in the 21st century, is as complex a field as the feminine mind. It can’t be linearly addressed and it can’t be discussed over a cocktail of negative emotions. However, of one thing we can be certain: Women’s Role, in free societies, is mainly a question of personal choice.

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  1. While I do not support everything Rick Santorum says, I do have to agree that women's first priority is in the home. I think the family unit is under attack, and that children are being raised by day care workers instead of their parents. One of our church leaders wisely said, "No other success can compensate for failure in the home." We are molding human beings! If the parents aren't there to do it, they are leaving that responsibility to someone whose values may not be what they would want for their children. I don't know about other women, but I had children because I wanted them. I wouldn't miss out on that opportunity to be their mother for anything in the world. There are women who must work so that their family can have the necessities of life. But I think that if they don't need to work, their first priority is to be in the home raising their children. This is a sacred responsibility! And when I say "need to work", I'm not including needing to work so that they have the latest fashions or toys. I agree it is a matter of personal choice, but the child's welfare should trump all other desires.

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  2. Hi D! :D

    "While I do not support everything Rick Santorum says, I do have to agree that women's first priority is in the home. I think the family unit is under attack, and that children are being raised by day care workers instead of their parents."

    First, allow me to say that GOP candidates are revealing themselves to be quite disappointing *nodding*.
    Indeed, mothers' first priority should be their children (I say mothers and not women, because not all women were cut out to be mothers and when they force themselves to do it [out of conventions or traditions] they reveal themselves to be terrible nurturers). Yes, the family unit has been under attack for quite a while - which is a shame. If a mother has to work (by force of the circumstances) I'd suggest the involvement of family members in the education of the child/children, instead of the participation of strangers...but that would require a lot of planning (which people are not always willing to do).

    "We are molding human beings! If the parents aren't there to do it, they are leaving that responsibility to someone whose values may not be what they would want for their children."

    Agreed. That is true.

    "I don't know about other women, but I had children because I wanted them. I wouldn't miss out on that opportunity to be their mother for anything in the world."

    :) hear, hear!

    "There are women who must work so that their family can have the necessities of life. But I think that if they don't need to work, their first priority is to be in the home raising their children. This is a sacred responsibility!"

    Indeed, it is a sacred responsibility.

    "And when I say "need to work", I'm not including needing to work so that they have the latest fashions or toys."

    LOL LOL I hear you...*nodding*.

    "I agree it is a matter of personal choice, but the child's welfare should trump all other desires."

    Again, it is a question of personal choice: does one choose to put the child's welfare before one's personal desires or not? And if not: is it ethical and what will be the impact of one's choice on our future society?

    D, thank you so much for your most valuable input on this matter :D.

    Cheers

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  3. I don't have a woman in my life to comment sensibly, but shall try. My late wife was a highly successful career woman who quit to be a full time mother and housewife when our son was born. She was a solid support system for my rapid rise in my career and the two of us were joined at the hips in more ways than one. She was no less of a woman for having taken that decision, entirely on her own, and I could not have been more grateful for her decision than if it were to happen to day again to me.

    There are different angles to look at this issue. Each angle is issue specific and complex. Politicos will shoot their mouths off for a few votes though they may not mean what they say.

    I submit that it is impossible to generalize on this issue.

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  4. Max, loved the image (it is sublime)! I don't like Rick Santorum: he is dangerous and his thoughts are outdated. As for Cardinal D. Manuel Monteiro de Castro, he is already working his politics towards the papacy.
    I do not think men are tired of career women, it is quite the opposite; I think they want women to work more and more because women without an occupation can be dangerous paranoid creatures.
    But I agree with Delirious, once a woman decides to have children I think her first priority should be her offspring and not her career. We are talking about human beings who need to be taught, guided, nurtured and moulded (let's be truthful) and do we want complete strangers to do that for us? Do we want them to influence our children with alien values? Then if they do not turn out to be what we expected whom are we going to blame?

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  5. I totally understand the position of Rick Santorum and the Cardinal: career women tend to neglect their children.
    I also agree with Silvio Berlusconi when he suggests women to marry and stay at home because they also tend to use their position (of power for example) to settle old scores or practice vendettas. If you are not a mother or married then work your butt out but don't bring emotions to the workplace.

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  6. Olá Max,

    I understand where Rick Santorum and Dom Manuel are coming from, but while Dom Manuel can defend such positions I don't think Rick Santorum is in the position of doing so (no matter how candid and truthful he might be about his values).
    Are men tired of career women? It depends on the type of men and on the type of career women. There are some men who do not care whether their women work or not; there are some who wish their women would stay home and take care of their children (specially when they can provide for their family); there are some women who put themselves and their career first; then you have those who have successful careers and after having children quit to take care of them and then you have those who are so organised (family wise) that they can afford to have both a career and emotionally balanced children...so it all depends.

    About the studies on thr role of women: come on, they are so subjective and depend on so many factors.

    I agree that our role is a question of personal choice (even the freedom to choose to be selfish).

    Tchau

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  7. Hi Rummy :D!

    "My late wife was a highly successful career woman who quit to be a full time mother and housewife when our son was born. She was a solid support system for my rapid rise in my career and the two of us were joined at the hips in more ways than one. She was no less of a woman for having taken that decision, entirely on her own, and I could not have been more grateful for her decision than if it were to happen to day again to me."

    Your wife seems to have been an admirable lady *bowing*. I totally know what you mean, my friend.

    "There are different angles to look at this issue. Each angle is issue specific and complex. Politicos will shoot their mouths off for a few votes though they may not mean what they say."

    Indeed. Agreed, but what seems to be interesting about Rick Santorum is that he appears to actually believe in what he says, which might will hurt him (politically speaking).

    "I submit that it is impossible to generalize on this issue."

    Yet, people do it everyday...

    Rummy, thank you ever so much for your input :D.

    Cheers

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  8. Hi Ana :D!

    "Max, loved the image (it is sublime)!"

    Thanks, I love it too *bowing*.

    "I don't like Rick Santorum: he is dangerous and his thoughts are outdated. As for Cardinal D. Manuel Monteiro de Castro, he is already working his politics towards the papacy."

    I can't dislike Rick Santorum because I don't know him personally; however I will say that his candidacy is quite disappointing. As for D. Manuel Monteiro de Castro: I totally agree with you.

    "I do not think men are tired of career women, it is quite the opposite; I think they want women to work more and more because women without an occupation can be dangerous paranoid creatures."

    LOL LOL LOL....*nodding*....

    "But I agree with Delirious, once a woman decides to have children I think her first priority should be her offspring and not her career. We are talking about human beings who need to be taught, guided, nurtured and moulded (let's be truthful) and do we want complete strangers to do that for us? Do we want them to influence our children with alien values? Then if they do not turn out to be what we expected whom are we going to blame?"

    I see what you mean and I am inclined to agree with you (and D).

    Ana, thank you so so much for this most interesting input :D.

    Cheers

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  9. Hi Anonymous :D!

    "I totally understand the position of Rick Santorum and the Cardinal: career women tend to neglect their children."

    Ok...

    "I also agree with Silvio Berlusconi when he suggests women to marry and stay at home because they also tend to use their position (of power for example) to settle old scores or practice vendettas. If you are not a mother or married then work your butt out but don't bring emotions to the workplace."

    lol...radical position, eh? Well, I do not agree with Mr. Berlusconi in that sense (not all women are cut out to get married and stay at home and they should only do so if they choose it). Plus, many powerful women are quite professional; I would say that only a very few display the sort of behaviour you described. Emotions are inherent to both male and female, so...

    Anonymous, thank you for sharing your opinion with us :D.

    Cheers

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  10. Olá Celeste :D!

    "I understand where Rick Santorum and Dom Manuel are coming from, but while Dom Manuel can defend such positions I don't think Rick Santorum is in the position of doing so (no matter how candid and truthful he might be about his values)."

    Indeed...

    "Are men tired of career women? It depends on the type of men and on the type of career women."

    Well said.

    "There are some men who do not care whether their women work or not; there are some who wish their women would stay home and take care of their children (specially when they can provide for their family); there are some women who put themselves and their career first; then you have those who have successful careers and after having children quit to take care of them and then you have those who are so organised (family wise) that they can afford to have both a career and emotionally balanced children...so it all depends."

    Exceptional example: thank you *applauding*.

    "About the studies on thr role of women: come on, they are so subjective and depend on so many factors."

    True.

    "I agree that our role is a question of personal choice (even the freedom to choose to be selfish)."

    Absolutely!

    Celeste, thank you ever so much for your marvellous input :D.

    Cheers

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