With this ring, you are consecrated to me...


The tradition of wearing a ring, on the fourth finger of the left hand, began in ancient Greece in the 3rd century B.C.
Greek doctors believe that that particular finger had a “vein of love” that went all the way to the heart.

The premise of wearing a wedding band in the left hand is so romantic, isn’t it? A couple exchanges rings, which not only tells everyone that they are no longer available, but mainly that their love, their pinkish energy, flows into the vena amoris all the way to the heart...
Beautiful!

Many cultures kept the custom of wearing weddings rings on the left hand; but some wear it on the right hand, or even on the toe (bischiya – Hindu women).
But regardless of where it is worn, its symbolism remains the same: Fidelity, ownership, eternal love...Eternal love, fidelity, possession...Possession, eternal love, fidelity...

It all begins in the betrothal ceremonies. Ladies receive the engagement ring and their face shines (but I wonder if they realise the true meaning of receiving such “proof” of commitment; or whether they just don’t give a damn, because if the agreement ends they’ll get to keep the ring...and if needed be...sell it)...now they get anxious for that moment when emotional security is guaranteed...
Men offer their betrothed ones beautiful rings (and poor souls...when they can’t afford one they actually feel guilty about it, a failure even...what has society done to us?) that express not only their intention to wed their love, but also to flaunt their success (i.e. It’s big and I can pay for this ring – or, I’ll find a way to pay for it – yes, she is mine; from now on if a guy so much looks in her direction, I’ll bust his chops).

Until the 19th century, only women wore wedding bands (which could make us doubt the romanticism of the whole affair)...but thanks to the American Jewellery Industry, couples – through a well organised marketing campaign – were inspired to exchange rings during the wedding ceremony.
Consecration, fidelity, eternal love...
“With this ring, you are consecrated to me according to the law of Moses and Israel.”
“Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity: in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.”
“With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.”

Beautiful...

Now, what happens if the fiancée doesn’t wish to wear a ring? People, but particularly the fiancé, will ask themselves why she doesn’t want to announce the world that she is engaged and that there is a man who loves her. The result of this: clouded minds, suspicions, fermentation of fury...
And what is the possible outcome of accidentally losing one’s ring? People, but specially the spouse, will think either that his/her beloved has cheated and left the ring at the love kleptomaniac’s house; or that his/her spouse is going through a middle age crisis and has the need to pretend that he/she is still single. The result of this: fights, quarrels, injustice...

If we subtract from the ring the time invested in selecting it; the sentiment conferred upon it; the money paid for it; and the social message it conveys; what’s left? A simple ring...a cold metal band.

Love, companionship, respect, loyalty, fidelity and trust go way beyond an engagement or wedding band: either it’s there or not.
A ring, per se, doesn’t vouchsafe these crucial marital values.

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  1. As a female, i really would admire a guy who presents me a ring to be fioncee:) i know it's very girlish and sometimes doesn't have any meaning for guys but many girl would love it when they wear ring!
    Yes u mentioned that it sounds like a proof to prove that "heyyy i have bf, do you see my ring? don't get close to me more than 2 meters":)
    And tell me! What about the guys who don't wear their rings when they go to somewhere else without their gfs or wives:)? They even don't tell that they're already married!...Why ? Because most of the men love polygami!!!!

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  2. Very interesting post Max, I learned some things I didn't know! :)

    I have a confession. When we got engaged, my husband gave me a beautiful ring. I wore it faithfully until I started having babies. Then I gained weight and it didn't fit anymore. I never have gone to have it resized. The same thing happened to him, and he quit wearing his too. Years later he gave me a 24 karat gold ring that he bought in Taiwan, and I wear that often, but not all the time. I think maybe the meaning of the ring has been lost a little in our generation, or maybe just with him and me. But we know who we belong to, and that means much more to us than the ring. And I think at our age, now that we are getting old and gray, there isn't the danger of people thinking we are single.

    I have to also admit that I'm not fond of wearing rings in general. I'm not sure why, but they are sort of uncomfortable to me. Maybe if I wore them more I would get used to them. I like the idea of wearing my rings, but I just never do. Maybe this post can inspire me to try. :)

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  3. Max:

    "Love, companionship, respect, loyalty, fidelity and trust go way beyond an engagement or wedding band: either it’s there or not.
    A ring, per se, doesn’t vouchsafe these crucial marital values."

    This wonderful ending to your post sums up everything I was going to say.

    I believe in marriage, and I believe in the ring. Not because it's a symbol of possession, but it's a symbol of fidelity, honor, respect and love. It announces to all who see it that I am married and I am proud of it. Of course, I would love my wife without a ring, but then other people might think that we are available. That would be false.

    I appreciated your historical account of the ring and how it came to be the way it is. I met a person once who wore his ring on his right hand. I admit that I was a little suspicious, but he told me that in his culture it is appropriate to wear it that way. We live and learn.

    I do not believe that one person has a right to possess another person - ring or not. But I do believe that one person possesses the love of another person. In my opinion, passion is the most intimate and possessive act I can imagine, and I think it's wonderful for two people to be as one.

    I am not without sin, that's for sure. But I have never been unfaithful by any definition. I believe in marriage for life. After all, if geese can do it, then there must be something to it.

    Great post.

    Happy trails.

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  4. Hey Burcu! :D

    "As a female, i really would admire a guy who presents me a ring to be fioncee:) i know it's very girlish and sometimes doesn't have any meaning for guys but many girl would love it when they wear ring!"

    Oooh, that is so sweet :)! Oh no, it is not girlish at all...it's human. I know a lot of guys to whom wearing a ring is important; so it is not only a girly thing...although many of us are taught to think that it is.

    "Yes u mentioned that it sounds like a proof to prove that "heyyy i have bf, do you see my ring? don't get close to me more than 2 meters":)"

    LOL I loved the "don't get close to me more than 2 meters" LOL....

    "And tell me! What about the guys who don't wear their rings when they go to somewhere else without their gfs or wives:)? They even don't tell that they're already married!...Why ? Because most of the men love polygami!!!!"

    Oh, yeah...there are a lot of guys (and believe it or not, but girls too) who do that - shocking!! These are perhaps people who either have a serious commitment issue; or have some sort of emotional problem that they try to solve through sex and cheating on their spouses (who knows)...

    Burcu, thank you so much for your contribution to this article; I love having you here with us :D!

    Cheers

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  5. GREAT post, Max! To be honest, R2 never gave me any proposal ring and I was the one who ordered our wedding rings...but that doesn't matter. What matters most is that he treats me well every single day of our lives together and that I do the same to him.

    But anyway, I LOVE the fact that he wears it faithfully...not just because it's a symbol of our marriage, but because it means he appreciates the hard work I put in getting the money to buy it (to put it in logical thinking) he he he...

    It's actually now become loose as he's lost some weight, but whenever I ask him if he wants to move it to a different finger, he wouldn't do it. But again I appreciate this gesture. ;-D

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  6. Hi D!!

    :D

    "Very interesting post Max, I learned some things I didn't know! :)"

    Thank you, dear *bowing*! Believe it or not, even I learned some things in the course of writing this article.

    "I have a confession. When we got engaged, my husband gave me a beautiful ring. I wore it faithfully until I started having babies. Then I gained weight and it didn't fit anymore. I never have gone to have it resized. The same thing happened to him, and he quit wearing his too."

    :D that is so sweet (I am imagining him taking the time to select it)!
    Yes, I know how it is (the same occurred to some members in my family).

    "Years later he gave me a 24 karat gold ring that he bought in Taiwan, and I wear that often, but not all the time."

    We have that in common...

    "I think maybe the meaning of the ring has been lost a little in our generation, or maybe just with him and me. But we know who we belong to, and that means much more to us than the ring. And I think at our age, now that we are getting old and gray, there isn't the danger of people thinking we are single."

    Exactly!
    LOL LOL I have seen your photo (in your blog), and let me tell you: you look good, girl!

    "I have to also admit that I'm not fond of wearing rings in general. I'm not sure why, but they are sort of uncomfortable to me. Maybe if I wore them more I would get used to them. I like the idea of wearing my rings, but I just never do. Maybe this post can inspire me to try. :)"

    I rarely wear them as well. I only wear mine when I go out, but when I am at home...my fingers are free lol ;)!
    Oh, that is so sweet...may love inspire you to try, D :)!

    Dear D, thank you so much for sharing your personal story with us, it is so endearing and inspiring. Thank you *bowing*!

    Cheers

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  7. An interesting study Max. I have been married for 15 years now. Wow, it feels wierd to say that.

    I am thankful for every day.

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  8. Hi Swu :D!

    "This wonderful ending to your post sums up everything I was going to say."

    *Bowing*...but please share your thoughts with us, you know how much I love hearing them :D!

    "I believe in marriage, and I believe in the ring. Not because it's a symbol of possession, but it's a symbol of fidelity, honor, respect and love. It announces to all who see it that I am married and I am proud of it.

    This is so beautiful!! You are a romantic man...

    "Of course, I would love my wife without a ring, but then other people might think that we are available. That would be false."

    LOL you know, I have heard (but I haven't tested it in a large group yet) that people know whether you are available or not by the way your body talks, moves; so I am not entirely sure if people would think that your wife, or you, were available...

    "I appreciated your historical account of the ring and how it came to be the way it is. I met a person once who wore his ring on his right hand. I admit that I was a little suspicious, but he told me that in his culture it is appropriate to wear it that way. We live and learn."

    Indeed. And there is another interesting feature: did you know that there is also a dating ring? Here in Portugal (I don't know if the same happens in other countries) it is customary for boyfriends and girlfriends to wear an extremely thin & twisted gold ring on their right hand; then when they get engaged the fiancée wears a diamond ring on the same hand, and when they get married they wear wedding bands on the left hand.
    Of course, we are assuming that the dating couple will marry, which many times doesn't occur.

    "I do not believe that one person has a right to possess another person - ring or not."

    I totally agree with you!

    "But I do believe that one person possesses the love of another person. In my opinion, passion is the most intimate and possessive act I can imagine, and I think it's wonderful for two people to be as one."

    Beautiful!! This is beautiful!!

    "I am not without sin, that's for sure. But I have never been unfaithful by any definition. I believe in marriage for life. After all, if geese can do it, then there must be something to it."

    I also believe in marriage for life. LOL LOL geese know the name of the game!!

    "Great post."

    Thank you, Swu *bowing*!

    And thank you so much for this gorgeous comment; I was actually moved as I read it :)! Thanks for enriching this article!

    Cheers

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  9. Hey Amel :D!

    "GREAT post, Max!"

    Thank you, gorgeous *bowing*!

    "To be honest, R2 never gave me any proposal ring and I was the one who ordered our wedding rings...but that doesn't matter. What matters most is that he treats me well every single day of our lives together and that I do the same to him."

    No, it doesn't matter at all. Hear, hear!! Love, respect, companionship, trust...that is all that matter in truth!

    "But anyway, I LOVE the fact that he wears it faithfully...not just because it's a symbol of our marriage, but because it means he appreciates the hard work I put in getting the money to buy it (to put it in logical thinking) he he he..."

    LOL Ah, Amelia...only you, girl!

    "It's actually now become loose as he's lost some weight, but whenever I ask him if he wants to move it to a different finger, he wouldn't do it. But again I appreciate this gesture. ;-D"

    :) that is so sweet of him! May God bless you both, gorgeous!! :D

    Amelia, thank you ever so much for having shared your personal view and experience with us: you have complemented this article in a fantastic way *bowing*!

    Cheers

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  10. Look who's here!!! :D

    Hi Scott!!

    It's so good to see you, man!!

    "An interesting study Max."

    Thank you *bowing*!

    "I have been married for 15 years now. Wow, it feels wierd to say that."

    Fantastic; congratulations :D!!! No, don't feel weird...it is a blessing!

    "I am thankful for every day."

    Amen to that! :D

    Oswegan, it was great to hear from you! And thanks for having shared a bit of yourself with us all *bowing*! May God bless you and your wife!

    Cheers

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  11. “The tradition of wearing a ring, on the fourth finger of the left hand, began in ancient Greece in the 3rd century B.C.
    Greek doctors believe that that particular finger had a “vein of love” that went all the way to the heart.”
    ---I never knew that. That is beautiful!


    “The premise of wearing a wedding band in the left hand is so romantic, isn’t it? A couple exchanges rings, which not only tell everyone that they are no longer available, but mainly that their love, their pinkish energy, flows into the vena amoris all the way to the heart...
    Beautiful!”
    ---I will have been married for almost 30 years and the only time I took of my ring was to get it resized….I put on a pound or two since we were married. 3 kids………we gained weight together. She lost the weight, I never did.


    “Many cultures kept the custom of wearing weddings rings on the left hand; but some wear it on the right hand, or even on the toe (bischiya – Hindu women).
    But regardless of where it is worn, its symbolism remains the same: Fidelity, ownership, eternal love...Eternal love, fidelity, possession...Possession, eternal love, fidelity...”
    ---I have a real problem with both ownership and possession.


    “It all begins in the betrothal ceremonies. Ladies receive the engagement ring and their face shines (but I wonder if they realise the true meaning of receiving such “proof” of commitment; or whether they just don’t give a damn, because if the agreement ends they’ll get to keep the ring...and if needed be...sell it)...now they get anxious for that moment when emotional security is guaranteed...”
    ---Nothing is guaranteed!


    “Men offer their betrothed ones beautiful rings (and poor souls...when they can’t afford one they actually feel guilty about it, a failure even...what has society done to us?) that express not only their intention to wed their love, but also to flaunt their success (i.e. It’s big and I can pay for this ring – or, I’ll find a way to pay for it – yes, she is mine; from now on if a guy so much looks in her direction, I’ll bust his chops).”
    ---Yep, it has morphed into something very un-holy (and I don’t mean same-sex marriage.)


    “Until the 19th century, only women wore wedding bands (which could make us doubt the romanticism of the whole affair)...but thanks to the American Jewellery Industry, couples – through a well organised marketing campaign – were inspired to exchange rings during the wedding ceremony.
    Consecration, fidelity, eternal love...
    “With this ring, you are consecrated to me according to the law of Moses and Israel.”
    “Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity: in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.”
    “With this ring I thee wed, with my body I thee worship and with all my worldly goods I thee endow: in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost. Amen.”
    Beautiful...”
    ---Yes, Beautiful


    “Now, what happens if the fiancée doesn’t wish to wear a ring? People, but particularly the fiancé, will ask themselves why she doesn’t want to announce the world that she is engaged and that there is a man who loves her. The result of this: clouded minds, suspicions, fermentation of fury...
    And what is the possible outcome of accidentally losing one’s ring? People, but specially the spouse, will think either that his/her beloved has cheated and left the ring at the love kleptomaniac’s house; or that his/her spouse is going through a middle age crisis and has the need to pretend that he/she is still single. The result of this: fights, quarrels, injustice...”
    ---The wearing of the rings means whatever the couple agrees on. The quarrels are a sign of something much deeper and an obvious sign of the lack of communication between the two.


    “If we subtract from the ring the time invested in selecting it; the sentiment conferred upon it; the money paid for it; and the social message it conveys; what’s left? A simple ring...a cold metal band.”
    ---It is only what we want it to be.


    “Love, companionship, respect, loyalty, fidelity and trust go way beyond an engagement or wedding band: either it’s there or not.
    A ring, per se, doesn’t vouchsafe these crucial marital values.”
    ---We are in total agreement, as you can see form my comments above.


    Well done Max!!!! HIGH (virtual) FIVE!!!

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  12. Hi Mel :D!

    ["Greek doctors believe that that particular finger had a “vein of love” that went all the way to the heart.”]
    ---I never knew that. That is beautiful!"

    It is, isn't it?

    "---I will have been married for almost 30 years and the only time I took of my ring was to get it resized….I put on a pound or two since we were married. 3 kids………we gained weight together. She lost the weight, I never did."

    30 years? That is great, Mel [Mazel Tov] :D!!! You have been blessed!!
    Oh, my parents also gained weight together...my mom is losing it, my dad is not. What is it with you guys? LOL...both my mom and your wife are the wise ones...

    "---I have a real problem with both ownership and possession."

    Me too. But I had to include all the realities in the world.

    "---Nothing is guaranteed!"

    Of course not; but that is what some people think! I am always appalled whenever I hear a woman, or a man, planning a marriage (or having a kid) because they think it to be the best way to guarantee emotional security and to keep a relationship sane, strong, glued...an absurd! Again, I had to include all realities...*nodding*...

    "---Yep, it has morphed into something very un-holy (and I don’t mean same-sex marriage.)"

    I know what you mean! It is kind of sad, isn't it? That society has transformed something that should be done freely, into an obligation *nodding*.

    "---Yes, Beautiful"

    :)

    "---The wearing of the rings means whatever the couple agrees on. The quarrels are a sign of something much deeper and an obvious sign of the lack of communication between the two."

    I agree. Quarrels may also mean that the marriage was not based on love entirely...and then insecurities (and fear that what they fought for may be taken away) take over the scene.

    "---It is only what we want it to be."

    Yes...but people confer too much importance to it. For example, if my husband hadn't had the means to buy an engagement & wedding rings...I wouldn't have minded; because my love and the respect for him, plus our connection are the things that matter the most to me. But there are some people who actually abandon men if they don't present the ring...what is that?

    "---We are in total agreement, as you can see form my comments above."

    We are indeed, Mel! Wonderful comments :D!

    "Well done Max!!!! HIGH (virtual) FIVE!!!"

    Thanks, buddy *High Five*! Mel, see beyond the "virtual", man LOL...

    Mel, thank you so much for this amazing comment, loved it!! Although we were in agreement, you have complemented my article by using more direct wording, thank you :D!

    Cheers

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  13. Max:

    On the issue of body language, there might be something to it, however, it's not what you'd expect. For instance, many many years ago I was in a tavern with a group of guys. The waitress came to our table and during our conversation she said that she could always tell who the married guys were just by looking at them. Of course, we challenged her. So she bent down and very carefully looked at each one of us in the eyes, and then she straightened up and said that I was the married one. It was true! She said that married guys have a certain look. Apparently, married men radiate some energy that single women can detect. We didn't discuss whether married women radiated the same vibe, but I suspect they do.

    I wanted to find out more about this fascinating subject, so shortly after the incident in the tavern I read a book on body language. According to the book, people are, in general, very poor at reading body language. However, they are very good at sending body language. That leads me to believe that the waitress in the tavern was merely reading the message I was subconsciously sending to her. What do you think?

    Happy trails.

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  14. Here are my thoughts on the ring (for me personally)...

    I wear a very simple gold band, no extra diamond. I like wearing a ring because it's like advertising myself as unavailable and I feel like I can be my natural self without feeling like men might misinterpret my friendliness.

    The downside is these days often a ring means "married" but not necessarily "unavailable". YIKES! I have learned that the hard way!

    Just about a year ago my husband lost his ring and was absolutely devastated. I said, "It's no problem, we'll get you another one..." Our rings were very inexpensive.

    But to this day the ring has not been replaced because we have a lot of memories wrapped into the purchase of our rings. At the time we were living in CA and made a trip to Las Vegas to take my mom to see some shows. This was in November. We were planning to marry in March of the following year, a simple service at my husband's mom's house. I had been dreading planning the whole thing, frankly.

    While we were in Vegas my mom was hinting we should just do it. And my almost-hubby was hinting and finally after a day of nagging I said OKAY. Saved us a big headache of wedding planning and it was a very sweet service with a nice chapel, not a cheesy LV wedding at all!

    But the ring purchase was so sweet... we found this pawn/jewelry store with bars on the windows. My mom says, "pull over there!" I said NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY! I am not buying our wedding rings from that place. It looked so hideous and frightening. She said, "I feel good about this place. Just pull in. PULL IN!" (You cannot tell my mother no.)

    So we go in and it turns out to be the nicest guy running the place and he casts his own gold bands as he needs them. As he was working on our rings, buffing them, adjusting them, etc. he told us all about him and his wife and their marriage and gave us advice about how to make a happy marriage.

    Anyway, so that was a really long way of saying what our rings mean to us... well, my lone ring now. It's a widow! (waaah!)

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  15. Hi Max,

    The funny thing is that the verse, "With this ring, I thee wed," can be used with the cellphone. So many people are married to them.

    Okay back to the topic at hand. (or finger.)

    "The tradition of wearing a ring, on the fourth finger of the left hand, began in ancient Greece in the 3rd century B.C. Greek doctors believe that that particular finger had a “vein of love” that went all the way to the heart."

    I also found that the Egyptians had a similar tradition with the vein of love. According to some historians, the first recorded marriage rings date back to the days when early man tied plaited circlets around the Bride's wrists and ankles to keep her spirit from running away. Approximately 3,000 BC, Egyptians originated the phrase "without beginning, without end" in describing the significance of the wedding ring. Can you imagine if it was like that today?

    "The premise of wearing a wedding band in the left hand is so romantic, isn’t it?"

    I never thought it was romantic, but I often don't think like anyone else so I am used to it. Romans originally used iron, but now gold is used as a symbol of all that is pure.

    "...but some wear it on the right hand, or even on the toe (bischiya – Hindu women)."

    Didn't know this. I often see women wearing toe rings, but I never thought they could be wedding rings. Do you know why? Is it a sacred reason?

    Do you think that more women are excited over the ring than men? I feel bad for the men who are caught between pleasing their women and not going broke by doing so.

    "...thanks to the American Jewellery Industry, couples – through a well organised marketing campaign – were inspired to exchange rings during the wedding ceremony."

    And DeBeers who has created an emotional urgency for diamonds over the last century. They have made people think that they need a ring as a symbol of love and commitment. (Marketing is an evil genius.)

    Copywriter, Frances Gerety coined the famous advertising line "A Diamond is Forever" in 1947, allegedly while she was dreaming. (The power of the written word.)

    Other successful campaigns include the "eternity ring" (as a symbol of continuing affection and appreciation), the "trilogy" ring (representing the past, present and future of a relationship) and the "right hand ring" (bought and worn by women as a symbol of independence.)

    How are people supposed to feel with De Beers on their back? LOL. I mean, in their head. We are up against a monster conformity that has nothing to do with love.

    "Now, what happens if the fiancée doesn’t wish to wear a ring? People, but particularly the fiancé, will ask themselves why she doesn’t want to announce the world that she is engaged and that there is a man who loves her. The result of this: clouded minds, suspicions, fermentation of fury..."

    That IS interesting.

    "If we subtract from the ring the time invested in selecting it; the sentiment conferred upon it; the money paid for it; and the social message it conveys; what’s left? A simple ring...a cold metal band."

    Exactly.

    Did you hear about the man who is suing his ex fiancée over a $25,000 engagement ring? Even though she threw it at him and told him she didn't want to get married, she wants to keep the ring. Do you think some women want to keep it out of spite? We have different laws in different states. In some states, the ring is construed as a gift, but in most states, it is conditional upon marriage.

    She will either get the ring or the finger.

    What about that Viennese man who cut off his ring finger and presented the micro limb, still attached to his wedding band, to his ex-wife after a bitter divorce.

    People get too attached to the ring. (Get it?)

    Excellent post my dear. I like how you took us through the history of rings.

    Ringing Cheers!

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  16. Hi Max….

    Very interesting…you threw a change up this week…

    On the exceedingly rare occasions that I forget to wear my wedding ring (I take it off every night before bed) I feel naked…as I am used to having it on and often twirl it around where it sits on my finger (over the tan line)….

    I am incredibly blessed that Chocolate Girl is not a person that dwells on symbolism. She is extraordinarily practical (one of the many things I love about her). So much so that she was the one that suggested I keep my wedding ring from my first marriage (from before becoming a Jesus follower). So I wear the same band as before and she chose her own engagement and wedding rings…we are a very practical couple…and we are not captured by advertising that romanticizes jewelry…but wedding rings are a cultural symbol…

    We know we own each others hearts and are one flesh…Jesus is in the midst of our marriage always growing us together…we don’t need the rings to remind us of this they probably are more of an informal signal saying “don’t waste your time” on us to others…

    When I think of rings I think of the One Ring:

    Three Rings for the Elven-kings under the sky,
    Seven for the Dwarf-lords in their halls of stone,
    Nine for Mortal Men doomed to die,
    One for the Dark Lord on his dark throne
    In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie.
    One Ring to rule them all, One Ring to find them,
    One Ring to bring them all and in the darkness bind them
    In the Land of Mordor where the Shadows lie.

    LOL A bit different from our wedding rings…

    I thought I should also throw a change up…

    :)

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  17. Max you did it again. Well, we came to buy engagement ring together, because I did not wanted him to spend so much money, its him I love not the ring, lol. I also did not know there was an engagement ring, only in America, lol.
    Max, thanks for giving all this background about rings, I actually did not know about the vein of love. So cool.

    However, my wedding ring is simple also, and I wear it day and night...Anna :) Max you are the best with your posts as usual.

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  18. Hey Max,

    i have never read such as inteligent writing:)))i think all man should read your succesfully writing:)thank you for this post Max..

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  19. Oh, I'd like to add something. In Indo it's the custom to wear wedding bands on the right ring finger. So when we put our rings on the LEFT ring finger on our wedding day at church, I could hear some people whispering, wondering aloud why we did that HA HA HA HA HA HA...

    It's because in Finland it's the custom to wear one on the left ring finger and R2 wanted it to be that way hi hi...

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  20. Swu,

    This is very interesting and so very true: women know when men are married; I would even go farther than this...they know when a man is taken, period. The ones that say that they didn't know are either distractive or just don't care enough to know (for their own reasons).

    "Apparently, married men radiate some energy that single women can detect. We didn't discuss whether married women radiated the same vibe, but I suspect they do."

    I can tell you that married women radiate the same vibe. Well, even dating women radiate the same vibe. For instance, before I met my husband, I used to go to clubs every week, to dance kizomba (a far cousin of Tango), and I would be asked to dance by a lot of gentlemen; once I started dating him and went back to the club with my single friends, they'd be asked to dance but not me.
    After that I tried on 5 others friends of mine and the same happened...but still I need to perform some more experiences.

    "According to the book, people are, in general, very poor at reading body language. However, they are very good at sending body language."

    That is exactly what my husband said...

    "That leads me to believe that the waitress in the tavern was merely reading the message I was subconsciously sending to her. What do you think?"

    I think that the waitress was both reading your body language (because she might have been good at it, since working in a bar and in other places gives you a lot of experience in this field); and receiving your subconsciously signs. I believe that most people, when unavailable, send signs to the exterior to let everybody know that they are taken (assume that I am talking about people who are truly committed in their relationship, not the other ones).

    Cheers

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  21. Hello Wendy :D!

    Welcome!!

    "Here are my thoughts on the ring (for me personally)..."

    Bring them on!

    "I wear a very simple gold band, no extra diamond. I like wearing a ring because it's like advertising myself as unavailable and I feel like I can be my natural self without feeling like men might misinterpret my friendliness."

    That is one fine reason to wear one!

    "The downside is these days often a ring means "married" but not necessarily "unavailable". YIKES! I have learned that the hard way!"

    LOL Yikes, indeed! I know a person who wears a marvellous ring, he is married yet extremely available...it shocks me *nodding*...

    "But to this day the ring has not been replaced because we have a lot of memories wrapped into the purchase of our rings. At the time we were living in CA and made a trip to Las Vegas to take my mom to see some shows. This was in November. We were planning to marry in March of the following year, a simple service at my husband's mom's house. I had been dreading planning the whole thing, frankly."

    That is so sweet! Oh, planning marriages can be dreading indeed, darling *nodding*!

    "Saved us a big headache of wedding planning and it was a very sweet service with a nice chapel, not a cheesy LV wedding at all!"

    LOL LOL "cheesy LV wedding" LOL...Ah, Wendy..you are funny! So you got married in Vegas, eh? That is the cure for wedding planning headache indeed...

    "But the ring purchase was so sweet... we found this pawn/jewelry store with bars on the windows. My mom says, "pull over there!" I said NO WAY NO WAY NO WAY! I am not buying our wedding rings from that place. It looked so hideous and frightening. She said, "I feel good about this place. Just pull in. PULL IN!" (You cannot tell my mother no.)"

    LOL LOL Wendy, you kill me LOL - I love the way you share this with us! Oh, I can relate: you cannot say no to my mother either!

    "So we go in and it turns out to be the nicest guy running the place and he casts his own gold bands as he needs them. As he was working on our rings, buffing them, adjusting them, etc. he told us all about him and his wife and their marriage and gave us advice about how to make a happy marriage."

    That is so nice! :D

    "Anyway, so that was a really long way of saying what our rings mean to us... well, my lone ring now. It's a widow! (waaah!)"

    Girl, now I understand their meaning to you...and why your husband hasn't replaced them: its history went with the ring.

    Wendy, thank you so very much for this awesome comment (it added another touch to the article); and for sharing your personal story with us *bowing*! You told it in such a funny way: thank you :D!

    Feel free to return whenever you feel like :)!

    Cheers

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  22. Hi Alexys :D!

    "The funny thing is that the verse, "With this ring, I thee wed," can be used with the cellphone. So many people are married to them."

    LOL true!

    "Okay back to the topic at hand. (or finger.)"

    ...............LOL LOL LOL......I didn't want to laugh but....

    "I also found that the Egyptians had a similar tradition with the vein of love. According to some historians, the first recorded marriage rings date back to the days when early man tied plaited circlets around the Bride's wrists and ankles to keep her spirit from running away. Approximately 3,000 BC, Egyptians originated the phrase "without beginning, without end" in describing the significance of the wedding ring. Can you imagine if it was like that today?"

    Well, in those days people had a stronger view on marriage. Today that view is more feable. I personally believe in marriage till the end, and because of that I made sure that I'd be patient enough to marry the right man (here in Portugal, young people marry [or live together - which is nearly the same] extremely early - in their 20's).
    So, "without beginning, without end" today...as beautiful as it may sound...it's not for every one, unfortunately (people are too hasty in getting married, and many times the reasons why they get married are not the proper ones either).

    "I never thought it was romantic, but I often don't think like anyone else so I am used to it. Romans originally used iron, but now gold is used as a symbol of all that is pure."

    Hindus wear Silver (because they wear toe rings, and gold cannot be worn below the waist).

    "Didn't know this. I often see women wearing toe rings, but I never thought they could be wedding rings. Do you know why? Is it a sacred reason?"

    Yes, they wear it on the second toe. LOL yes, but if they aren't Hindu then they wear it for fashion reasons only. No, there is no special explanation, it is just tradition.
    But if I know that if it is a man wearing a toe ring, then it is intended to increase his potency...if you know what I mean...

    "Do you think that more women are excited over the ring than men? I feel bad for the men who are caught between pleasing their women and not going broke by doing so."

    I think so. Many women feel that if there's no ring, then the relationship is not vouchsafed (which is an absurd). I know many who received gorgeous rings, and in the end their darling spouses jump the fence whenever they have the opportunity...so sad *nodding*.
    I also feel sorry for those men too *nodding*!
    I think that the ring issue should be subject to personal choice and not an imposition by society and insecure, greedy women.

    "And DeBeers who has created an emotional urgency for diamonds over the last century. They have made people think that they need a ring as a symbol of love and commitment. (Marketing is an evil genius.)"

    Yes! And on top of it, it raised the demand for rocks which generated to exploitation of "blood diamonds" (by the way, loved the movie).

    "Copywriter, Frances Gerety coined the famous advertising line "A Diamond is Forever" in 1947, allegedly while she was dreaming. (The power of the written word.)"

    I didn't know who the author of the famous line was. While she was dreaming, you say? Wow...

    "Other successful campaigns include the "eternity ring" (as a symbol of continuing affection and appreciation), the "trilogy" ring (representing the past, present and future of a relationship) and the "right hand ring" (bought and worn by women as a symbol of independence.)"

    Oh my God...like Mel said "rings are what we make of them"...

    "How are people supposed to feel with De Beers on their back? LOL. I mean, in their head. We are up against a monster conformity that has nothing to do with love."

    LOL LOL LOL! Their purpose is to sell, sell, sell. But people confer the meaning they want their rings to have.
    All I say is; if you want a ring and can afford it - go ahead. But if you don't want a ring (by personal conviction), or cannot afford it - then don't wear one; or don't let society force you to get one.

    "That IS interesting."

    People have different reactions, I guess...

    "Did you hear about the man who is suing his ex fiancée over a $25,000 engagement ring? Even though she threw it at him and told him she didn't want to get married, she wants to keep the ring. Do you think some women want to keep it out of spite?"

    Oh Lord...*nodding*! And he might end up paying more than that for court expenses! Well, if the ring was given to her, she should keep it (it has her energies, after all). But the moment she threw it at him, she declared that she didn't want it anymore...so perhaps she wants it back for two reasons: 1- spite; 2- she remembered how much it was worth.

    "We have different laws in different states. In some states, the ring is construed as a gift, but in most states, it is conditional upon marriage."

    Wow! I think that here it is construed as a gift.

    "She will either get the ring or the finger."

    LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL....excellent! LOL LOL LOL...in her case, she should get the finger.
    It is a big mistake to throw a ring at a man's face! This is what happend when one acts without using reason.

    "What about that Viennese man who cut off his ring finger and presented the micro limb, still attached to his wedding band, to his ex-wife after a bitter divorce."

    :O get outta here? How dramatic!!

    "People get too attached to the ring. (Get it?)"

    ROFL...I got it! LOL...so true...so sad...

    "Excellent post my dear. I like how you took us through the history of rings."

    Thank you, darling *bowing*! And I didn't include the dating ring (a custom here in Portugal): boyfriend and girlfriend exchange a very thin twisted ring of gold to tell everyone that they are not available (of course, dating couples give you a very different explanation, a romantic one of course...).

    Lady A, thank you ever so much for this fantastic comment! You made me laugh, you astonished me, you gave me the full treatment *bowing*! Another perfect complement to my article! :D

    Metal Band Cheers

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  23. Hi LS :D!

    "Very interesting…you threw a change up this week…"

    Thank you :)! Well...you know me....

    "On the exceedingly rare occasions that I forget to wear my wedding ring (I take it off every night before bed) I feel naked…as I am used to having it on and often twirl it around where it sits on my finger (over the tan line)…."

    You feel naked without your ring? Interesting...the reasons you gave to why you feel naked...but I must not jump into conclusions, let me read it further....

    "I am incredibly blessed that Chocolate Girl is not a person that dwells on symbolism. She is extraordinarily practical (one of the many things I love about her)."

    I see...

    "So much so that she was the one that suggested I keep my wedding ring from my first marriage (from before becoming a Jesus follower). So I wear the same band as before and she chose her own engagement and wedding rings…we are a very practical couple"

    I'd say that you two go beyond practicality...you are both extremely progressive. I must take notes of this...*writing this section down*....

    "…and we are not captured by advertising that romanticizes jewelry…but wedding rings are a cultural symbol…"

    So, you two wear rings because they are a cultural symbol? You said CG is not into symbolism, should I gather that you are?

    "We know we own each others hearts and are one flesh…Jesus is in the midst of our marriage always growing us together"

    Beautiful! :)

    "…we don’t need the rings to remind us of this they probably are more of an informal signal saying “don’t waste your time” on us to others…"

    LOL LOL LOL fair enough!

    "When I think of rings I think of the One Ring:"

    Oh boy...is this the "Lord of the Rings"?
    LOL LOL using your own words "don't waste your time" I am not converting to sci-fi (must I wear a ring to convince you of this?)! LOL

    "LOL A bit different from our wedding rings…"

    LOL LOL well, if I didn't know you better I could think that this text was the one you told your wife during the ring exchange...but thank God, I know you! :)

    "I thought I should also throw a change up… :)"

    LOL You did well *bowing*!

    LS, thank you for your great contribution! I must say that you did surprise me...I love progressive people :)!

    Cheers

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  24. Hi Anna :D!

    "Max you did it again."

    lol Thank you, darling :D!

    "Well, we came to buy engagement ring together, because I did not wanted him to spend so much money, its him I love not the ring, lol."

    lol That is an excellent point! Plus, the sentimental value of your rings doubled: it's so cute to buy things together, isn't it? The Love that surrounds the couple is wonderful...

    "I also did not know there was an engagement ring, only in America, lol."

    You didn't know? Not only in America...trust me.

    "Max, thanks for giving all this background about rings, I actually did not know about the vein of love. So cool."

    Ah, the vein of love is cute! You are welcome, dear :)!!

    "However, my wedding ring is simple also, and I wear it day and night...Anna :) Max you are the best with your posts as usual."

    In simplicity lies quality.
    Why, thank you, Anna...you are too kind *bowing*!

    And thank you for your input :D! You have brought good vives into the arena!! Send my love to Matthew!

    Cheers

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  25. Hi Nevruz :D!

    Welcome!!

    "i have never read such as inteligent writing:)))i think all man should read your succesfully writing:)thank you for this post Max.."

    Why, thank you *bowing*! That is extremely kind of you!
    LOL I know what you mean by that, darling! I heard that Greece and European-Latin countries share some behaviours...
    You are welcome, dear :D!

    Nevruz, thank you for having dropped by and for your kind words! Please know that you are extremely welcome to the MAX :D!

    Cheers

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  26. Gorgeous Amelia!

    "Oh, I'd like to add something. In Indo it's the custom to wear wedding bands on the right ring finger. So when we put our rings on the LEFT ring finger on our wedding day at church, I could hear some people whispering, wondering aloud why we did that HA HA HA HA HA HA..."

    Really? lol lol so everybody was wondering why you guys were placing the wring on the wrong hand, eh? Interesting the cultural differences, isn't it?

    "It's because in Finland it's the custom to wear one on the left ring finger and R2 wanted it to be that way hi hi..."

    It is only fair, right? :)
    But I am guessing that you would be ok, either way, right? :D

    Amel, thank you for having shared this cultural moment with us...

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  27. Hi Max,

    "I personally believe in marriage till the end..."

    Me too.

    "...here in Portugal, young people marry [or live together - which is nearly the same] extremely early - in their 20's)."

    Wow. Really. That's young to commit to a life of togetherness. Is the divorce (or break-up) rate high in Portugal?

    "Hindus wear Silver (because they wear toe rings, and gold cannot be worn below the waist)."

    This is fascinating. Because gold is respected it can't be worn below the waist.

    "But if I know that if it is a man wearing a toe ring, then it is intended to increase his potency...if you know what I mean..."

    OMG. Anything to give them the edge.

    "I know many who received gorgeous rings, and in the end their darling spouses jump the fence whenever they have the opportunity..."

    ROFL. The phrase, "Jump the fence," is so visual. I can just see dogs jumping over the fence. ROFL.

    "Yes! And on top of it, it raised the demand for rocks which generated to exploitation of "blood diamonds" (by the way, loved the movie)."

    Exactly. Good movie, even De Caprio's South African accent wasn't bad - for him.

    "LOL LOL LOL! Their purpose is to sell, sell, sell. But people confer the meaning they want their rings to have."

    Right. A ring is what people make it.

    "...he might end up paying more than that for court expenses! Well, if the ring was given to her, she should keep it (it has her energies, after all). But the moment she threw it at him, she declared that she didn't want it anymore...so perhaps she wants it back for two reasons: 1- spite; 2- she remembered how much it was worth."

    Probably both reasons.

    "LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL....excellent! LOL LOL LOL...in her case, she should get the finger."

    LOL. LOL. LOL.

    "It is a big mistake to throw a ring at a man's face! This is what happend when one acts without using reason."

    Isn't it the equivalent to slapping a man across the face with gloves and challenging him to a dual?

    ":O get outta here? How dramatic!!"

    That's how people are.

    "And I didn't include the dating ring (a custom here in Portugal): boyfriend and girlfriend exchange a very thin twisted ring of gold to tell everyone that they are not available (of course, dating couples give you a very different explanation, a romantic one of course...)."

    Really. My 17 year old niece wears a purity ring. As she says, "This is not coming off until I get married."

    "You made me laugh, you astonished me, you gave me the full treatment..."

    Right back at cha.

    Thanks for an informative and copacetic post. It was well received. :D

    It also made my ears ring. ;D

    Music Band Cheers.

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  28. Lady A,

    "Wow. Really. That's young to commit to a life of togetherness. Is the divorce (or break-up) rate high in Portugal?"

    It is! The divorce rate is 54.2% - shocking, isn't it? This is based upon people who get married officially (which decreased significantly since people prefer to move in together), because living together is not included in the statistics.

    "This is fascinating. Because gold is respected it can't be worn below the waist."

    Exactly.

    "OMG. Anything to give them the edge."

    Anything....girl! You know how it goes....

    "ROFL. The phrase, "Jump the fence," is so visual. I can just see dogs jumping over the fence. ROFL."

    ROFL....that's exactly what they are: dawgs! LOL LOL....

    "Exactly. Good movie, even De Caprio's South African accent wasn't bad - for him."

    Yes, he was quite good indeed...

    "Probably both reasons."

    ....*nodding*...

    "LOL. LOL. LOL."

    LOL I loved the dots in between the "LOL" LOL LOL....

    "Isn't it the equivalent to slapping a man across the face with gloves and challenging him to a dual?"

    It is!!! And then when the man responds accordingly...they don't like it and act surprised or shocked!

    "That's how people are."

    Outrageous!

    "Really. My 17 year old niece wears a purity ring. As she says, "This is not coming off until I get married.""

    Yes, really. She does? You know, I find it so brave...these kids today are subject to so much sexual pressure (I don't remember suffering any, while growing up), so when they decide to remain virgins until the find the right person...it makes me smile and be proud.
    I don't defend women getting married virgins (I must be honest), but if that is her decision: it is worthy of being proud of her :D!

    "Right back at cha."

    *High Five*!

    "Thanks for an informative and copacetic post. It was well received. :D"

    "copacetic" I like that word! You are welcome, dear...! Epharisto *bowing*! :D

    "It also made my ears ring. ;D"

    LOL LOL I bet it did LOL ;D!

    Phone Ring(ing) Cheers

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  29. Thanks a lot for this great article: interesting, inspired and inspiring. I love the way you put it and your sense of humour!
    So thanks on that nearly thanksgiving day!
    XX PC

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  30. When we got married I remember getting an awesome ring for my wife and then making payments on it till, oh wait , just finished,lol.

    It wasn't common for men to get rings at that time (30 years next Feb, wow) but we decided to anyways, glad we decided to go that way.

    Regardless of the rings, we made a decision to be all the things married couples are to each other,as you so perfectly put in your last sentences, rings I suppose show society the decision we have made but in God's eyes we were married once we exchanged vows.

    My youngest will be getting married June of next year, it will be too cool to watch as they make the commitment and promise to take care of each other till death due them part.

    Another excellent post max.

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  31. I'm not a jewelery addict but I must say I love rings, and mostly "my" ring. It is just there, on my left hand, as a reminder of good memories and more to come.

    I like the symbol: a circle, something that fits tightly on my finger, on my hands that I use a lot in my daily life.

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  32. Being a cheapskate, I let my mother-in-law buy the rings. From my perspective, there is nothing worse than a guy who takes his ring off and tries to attract a new female. In my case, however, I spend so much time running around in the outdoors that there is a permanent discoloration on my ring finger.

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  33. This post reminded me of this:
    http://onlyinsilence.com/2008/05/08/why-wedding-ring-should-be-put-on-the-fourth-finger/

    Someone emailed it to me and I thought of posting it.

    Btw, I am including you in my blogroll so I can visit you directly, not through Entrecard anymore. I hope you don't mind ;o)

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  34. Well, right now I'm not using my wedding ring as it grew loose...and when I moved it to my right ring finger (R2 doesn't mind that), for some reason after moving to Finland I have this skin problem...maybe 'coz I wear gloves a lot when I'm outside and when inside I take them off...so my sweat makes the skin underneath the ring becomes itchy.

    So now I put the ring on a necklace and I've been wearing it close to my heart ever since then HE HE HE HE HE...

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  35. Hello PC :D!

    Welcome!!!

    "Thanks a lot for this great article: interesting, inspired and inspiring. I love the way you put it and your sense of humour!
    So thanks on that nearly thanksgiving day!"

    You are welcome *bowing*! lol Why, thank you so much :D!
    Happy Thanksgiving to you; and you are most welcome!!

    PC, thanks for having dropped by and shared your thoughts with us! I hope to see more of you, for you are extremely welcome here :D!

    Cheers

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  36. Hey Bob :D!

    "When we got married I remember getting an awesome ring for my wife and then making payments on it till, oh wait , just finished,lol."

    LOL LOL Bob, you kill me LOL...

    "It wasn't common for men to get rings at that time (30 years next Feb, wow) but we decided to anyways, glad we decided to go that way."

    Nearly 30 years? Congratulations, man :D!!! Oh, that is so sweet of you...

    "Regardless of the rings, we made a decision to be all the things married couples are to each other,as you so perfectly put in your last sentences, rings I suppose show society the decision we have made but in God's eyes we were married once we exchanged vows."

    Absolutely!! Absolutely!

    "My youngest will be getting married June of next year, it will be too cool to watch as they make the commitment and promise to take care of each other till death due them part."

    Oooh, so sweet...we wish her nothing but happiness and may God bless her and her husband-to-be!

    "Another excellent post max."

    Thanks, Lord of the Astropics *bowing*!

    And thank you for your fantastic input and for sharing your personal experience with us all :D!

    Cheers

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  37. Salut Zhu! :D

    "I'm not a jewelery addict but I must say I love rings, and mostly "my" ring. It is just there, on my left hand, as a reminder of good memories and more to come."

    I am not a jewellery addict myself, but I totally know where you are coming from...totally!

    "I like the symbol: a circle, something that fits tightly on my finger, on my hands that I use a lot in my daily life."

    A circle - completion. :)

    Zhu, thank you so much for having shared your views on this theme and for adding a different touch to the article :D!

    Cheers

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  38. Hey Looney :D!

    "Being a cheapskate, I let my mother-in-law buy the rings."

    LOL a cheapskate, eh?

    "From my perspective, there is nothing worse than a guy who takes his ring off and tries to attract a new female."

    I agree. It's shocking and a total lack of respect for the vows spoken.

    Looney, thank you for your input! You brought something new into the arena (you're a confessed cheapskate) and you hinted at a very interesting aspect of having the ring "engraved" on your skin (discoloration of the ring finger), thank you :D!

    Cheers

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  39. Hey Abelle :D!

    I will take a look at it, thanks :D!

    "Btw, I am including you in my blogroll so I can visit you directly, not through Entrecard anymore. I hope you don't mind ;o)"

    I don't mind at all, darling! And be sure that the gesture will be retributed :D! Thanks!!

    Abelle, I'll see you in a while; and thanks for having dropped by and shared this link with us all :D!

    Cheers

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  40. Hi Gorgeous!

    "Well, right now I'm not using my wedding ring as it grew loose...and when I moved it to my right ring finger (R2 doesn't mind that), for some reason after moving to Finland I have this skin problem...maybe 'coz I wear gloves a lot when I'm outside and when inside I take them off...so my sweat makes the skin underneath the ring becomes itchy."

    You lost some weight with all that tae-bo ;)! Perhaps your skin is experiencing some sort of dermatitis caused by cold weather, I don't know...

    "So now I put the ring on a necklace and I've been wearing it close to my heart ever since then HE HE HE HE HE..."

    Awww that is so cute and sweet *tender face*! That is another way of using the ring indeed...

    See? You just added a new item to the article :D!

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  41. Hey Hey hey!!!
    Come and see my latest post ;9

    You'll like it ...

    C ya

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  42. Hey Burcu :D!

    I will be there in a jiffy, thanks :D!

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  43. An edifying history and interpretation, Max!

    Neither my husband nor I wear our weddding bands for the simple reason that they are so uncomfortable! We bought them long ago. They're wide, and even with re-sizing, will always be a bit unwieldy. So we just go without them.

    We could exchange new ones but as you pointed out, it's love, respect and fidelity that are important. The object is just a symbol, and symbols can lie.

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  44. Hey Lynda :D!

    "An edifying history and interpretation, Max!"

    Thank you, darling *bowing*!

    "We could exchange new ones but as you pointed out, it's love, respect and fidelity that are important. The object is just a symbol, and symbols can lie."

    Absolutely! Well, people misuse symbols...it's true. And people lie, also true. So, the marital values are what really count!

    Lynda, thank you ever so much for having shared your personal experience and thanks for your contribution to this debate; I loved it! :D

    Cheers

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  45. Hi Max,
    I just have time for a quickie tonight. I am so far behind on everything.

    When Walter ask me to marry him we were both pretty well broke.

    So I didn't get an engagement ring and we didn't even have rings for our wedding.

    That's right we got married and no rings.

    But, something unique and really special happen to us because of this.

    One of our good friends Betty had saved her rings from her previous marriage.

    So feeling sorry that we had no rings she gave those rings to us.

    Now what is so special about this?

    Okay My real name is Jackie and I am married to Walter.

    But Walter's ring has the name Betty engraved on inside of it and mine says George.

    So for us it is romantic and funny. and we're still very happily married for 26 years now.

    George and Betty turned out to be very lucky for us!!

    Blessings of peace Max:D

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  46. Hi Shinade :D!

    "I just have time for a quickie tonight. I am so far behind on everything."

    Even if for a second, it is always nice to see you here :)!

    "One of our good friends Betty had saved her rings from her previous marriage. So feeling sorry that we had no rings she gave those rings to us."

    Ooh, that was so sweet of her...*tender face*!

    "Okay My real name is Jackie and I am married to Walter. But Walter's ring has the name Betty engraved on inside of it and mine says George."

    lol I see what you mean...but still it was sweet, because the act came from the heart!

    "So for us it is romantic and funny. and we're still very happily married for 26 years now."

    Congratulations, darling :D!!!

    "George and Betty turned out to be very lucky for us!!"

    LOL true!

    "Blessings of peace Max:D"

    Thanks, Jackie :D!

    And thank you so much for having shared your personal story with us *bowing*!

    Cheers

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  47. "If we subtract from the ring the time invested in selecting it; the sentiment conferred upon it; the money paid for it; and the social message it conveys; what’s left? A simple ring...a cold metal band."

    Max, I am so glad I found your site. You have many thought provoking articles. Even your commentors stimulate my thoughts.

    Sometimes a ring is much more that the thought and money and sentiment. Here is my story...

    My eternal "sweetie" gave me a ring a couple of birthdays back. We were extremely low on funds. We had enough for what we needed, but no extras for birthday presents. I told him not to get me a present. I said a nice home cooked dinner and an evening with him was all I wanted. I got home that evening and there was a bouquet of wild flowers on the table. Tied to a stem was a ring. This ring was a simple silver band. He had worked for days on it. He took an old silver quarter from his collection of old coins and hammer and beat it down until it was a perfect circle. One of the neatest things about this ring is that it was from the year of my birth. On the inside of the band that date is still there. No one has ever worked so hard for such a simple present that means so much to me.

    Marriage/commitment is so much more than a legal document or religious ceremony. We are not married. We will never be married. But we are best friends, soul mates, and eternal companions.

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  48. Hey Christina :D!

    "Max, I am so glad I found your site. You have many thought provoking articles. Even your commentors stimulate my thoughts."

    I am glad you did too :D! It is great to have you here!
    LOL I confess: they are thought-provoking and provocative lol ;).
    I was blessed with magnificent commentators, and I am glad you are one of them now :D!

    "Sometimes a ring is much more that the thought and money and sentiment. Here is my story..."

    Let's hear it, darling....

    "My eternal "sweetie" gave me a ring a couple of birthdays back. We were extremely low on funds. We had enough for what we needed, but no extras for birthday presents.(...) No one has ever worked so hard for such a simple present that means so much to me."

    Aww, that is such a cute and fantatisc story *moved face*! I can feel the love between you two :)! You were blessed Christina.

    "Marriage/commitment is so much more than a legal document or religious ceremony. We are not married. We will never be married. But we are best friends, soul mates, and eternal companions."

    So true. Aww, that is so marvellous: I am touched by your love, I really am! :)

    Christina, thank you so much for having shared your personal story with us...it was beautiful!! :D

    Cheers

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